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Celibacy: How to cope with the pressure from your family?

15 December 2021, Seytoo
Celibacy: How to cope with the pressure from your family?

You are single and it is already not easy every day. So, when your mom starts to cry and your siblings are desperate to get in touch with your aunt's uncle's daughter ... you fall for it. It is about your life, your future. A future that only involves you and whoever you choose. So, make the choices that appeal to you, and listen only to your heart, it is and always will be the sole judge of your life.

Say no to emotional blackmail.

“Anyway, at this rate, I won't be around to see you on your wedding day anymore.”
“I'm going to die before I see your kids, that's what you want, huh?”
And other happy variations…

Emotional blackmail is one of the most famous weapons against single people from parents. What to do? Above all, do not get caught up in the game, do not cry, do not marry the first comer just to please mum and take away all bad ideas. In short, above all, do not feel guilty.

In this story, you are the “victim,” if it is at all possible to call you a victim. You are looking for love and have not yet found it. The role of those who surround you and love you is not to put pressure on you by leaning on where it already hurts, but on the contrary to reassure you by telling you that everything is happening to those who know how to wait. So, let it flow, try not to pay attention to it, you should even laugh about it ...

No to shenanigans.

Between the improbable arranged dates (in desperation they went so far as to (re) present you your cousin's ex-wife), the setups to make you a dinner face to face with this girl whose number you refused to take (when you thought you were going to your best friend's surprise birthday party), the seating plans orchestrated by your mother at all the weddings you go to… your life is nothing more than shenanigans and convoluted stratagems to make you meet love… In addition to being devoid of romanticism, this situation is also extremely burdensome in everyday life.

Don't let this fool you, impose yourself and let them know that they have crossed the line. One, two, three dates, why not? Some love stories are born thanks to all kinds of matchmakers. But too much is too much. Leave room for chance, fate, magic. And tell yourself that if those around you feel obligated to do all of this, it is probably because they feel you are passive. If they think you are determined to take the bull by the horns, they will be quieter on their own.

No to incitement.

“We didn't really like that girl (that boy), she (he), at least not after your first date (organized by your tribe, of course).”
“But we have told you and repeated so much, that she (he) came from a good family, that she (he) had a good education, had a good job, a country house, a savings account and even a Labrador, in short, you agreed to see him (her) again.”
“And although the current is not flowing, although you may not have felt anything in particular, you think to yourself that maybe ... so you continue.”

Big mistake. Be aware that "forced" unions are the cause of many divorces and other unhappy marriages. You don't have to do anything to make Mom, Dad or Adjia “happy.” It is about your life, your future. A future that only involves you and whoever you choose. So, make the choices that appeal to you, and listen only to your heart, it is and always will be the sole judge of your life.
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